Post Series: Poems with Explanations: Acceptance?


The one idea,
not said out.
Told by each.
the lacking,
even of only,
not one tyro.


This poem is about a woman who has had a miscarriage.  In the poem, she has been visited by many people soon after the event.  The people attempt to console her.  After so many visits though, the woman is tired of it all.

Each visitor, at some point indirectly, tells the woman that she should accept what has happened.  They are in some way, trying to tell her to move on.  In the first line of the poem, the woman starts to reflect on what she is told.

She starts by questioning the idea of acceptance (Acceptance?).  She is almost experiencing a disgust at the thought.  She is somewhat jaded as she comes to the conclusion, that each and every person that has visited her has told her the same thing.  She realizes though, that no one has actually said the word acceptance.  They instead talk around the idea.  She feels that they are cowardly for this, and she again, is experiencing some disgust.  This whole thought process is contained in the two sentences: The one idea, eventually, not said out.  Told by each.

The woman is bothered by the attitudes of those that visit her.  She feels it is condescending and rude and out of touch, and a whole list of other ideas, for them to tell her to accept anything.  She is very emotional, but in some way, not expressing it.

Part of the reason for how the woman feels, is the fact that not one person who has spoken to her of acceptance, has been through what she has been through.  Not one of them has had a miscarriage.  She examines each visitor in her mind and comes to this conclusion.  This idea is contained in the sentence: Especially, noticeable, the lacking, even of only, not one tyro.  (The word tyro generally means the same thing as the word novice.  There is in a sense a double negative in the sentence.  The woman notices the lack of no novices.  This means she sees everyone as a novice.)

The idea of the poem is that the woman feels offended that people who have no direct knowledge of what she is experiencing, are trying to tell her how to deal with it.  She feels a certain frustration and annoyance by it all.

This poem uses the experimental poetry form: ten that was on this blog on August 1, 2016.  In summary, the form is one stanza that has ten lines.  Each line has ten letters.  The poem follows the acrostic pattern of ATENTENTEN.

The form used for this poem was very influential to the expression of the idea.  Having to match the letter count and the acrostic pattern was a constant thought as the poem was written.  Within this though, there was still the idea of somehow trying to relate the idea that was in the poem.  The final thought, of a woman being visited by guests whom she comes to view as hypocrites, was directly influenced by the form.  It was decided as the poem was written.


Do you like poems with explanations?

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To help celebrate the self-publication of this book, there is a post series of poems with explanations on the blog.  Above is a poem with an explanation for the series.  This poem with an explanation (as well as the rest in the series) is not from the book.  It is a different one that is part of this post series for readers to read and enjoy.